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Taking one's place: what does that really mean?

Taking one's place: what does that really mean?

In a fast-paced lifestyle where everything moves quickly, many people feel the same thing without always knowing how to name it: the feeling of not quite belonging.


We often hear "you have to take your place." But what does that mean, concretely, in real life—at work, in family, in business? Is it about asserting yourself? Making yourself heard louder? Or is it something else, much more subtle and transformative?


📌 Summary


1️⃣ Taking one's place: a common confusion


Many people still associate taking one's place with:

  • speak louder

  • to impose oneself

  • be right

  • take up more space than others


In reality, taking one's place is not an act of force , but a state of inner alignment .

Your place already exists. You don't have to steal it or defend it.


2️⃣ Why it's so difficult to take your place


Several factors amplify this difficulty:

  • performance pressure

  • mental overload

  • constant comparison

  • fast pace of work and life


From a very young age, we learn to:

  • Do not disturb

  • adapt

  • over-adjust

  • hold back


Over time, it becomes automatic… until it creates fatigue, frustration and a loss of meaning.


3️⃣ Take your place without stepping on others or justifying yourself


Taking one's place is not:

  • crush the others

  • constantly justifying themselves

  • enter into conflict


It is :

  • to be present

  • to be clear

  • to be consistent


When a person takes their place, they naturally create more space around them — without struggle.


4️⃣ Signs that you haven't yet found your place


Here are some common indicators among the clients I work with in Montreal and on the North Shore/South Shore:

  • you often doubt your worth

  • You apologize too much

  • You say yes even though your body says no

  • you feel invisible or exhausted


These signs are not flaws. They simply indicate that it is time to return to oneself .


5️⃣ Taking your place: a conscious choice, not a fight


In a conscious approach, change is not forced.

We are asking a different question.

What if I made my choice today, without compromise?

Taking one's place always begins with an inner choice , never with an external confrontation.


6️⃣ How to get started, here and now


You can start by:

  • observe where you hold back

  • listen to your body's signals

  • release judgment towards yourself

  • choose a small step different


Tools like Access Bars sessions in Montreal help to release the mental and emotional burden that naturally prevents one from taking their place.


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